To me, cool means living for more than the next moment. Cool doesn’t mean having the latest Dior, knowing people, being on the list, and sitting at Lucien. Cool means you are your authentic self. Cool means you walk the walk. Cool means being a good fucking person. Cool means when you are alone, you can stand to be with yourself. Cool means listening when others speak. Cool means holding doors open and smiling. Cool is compassion, understanding, love, and boundaries. Cool is being good.
Fall in love with taking care of yourself. Fall in love with the path of deep healing. Fall in love with becoming the best version of yourself but with patience, with compassion and respect to your own journey.
You don’t just wake up someday and fall in love with yourself. It takes time. It takes patience but more than that it takes self compassion, empathy and kindness from yourself towards your own heart. You have to be brave enough to forgive yourself for all the mistakes you have made and all the chances you didn’t take. Like all the other forms of love, you will learn to love yourself by practicing SELF-LOVE. -Dhiman.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. I am a big fan of Key & Peele. Not recent, but this is one of the best.)
We humans do not understand compassion. In each moment of our lives, we betray it. We know of its worth, yet in knowing we then attach to it a value, we guard the giving of it, believing it must be earned. Compassion is priceless in the truest sense of the world. It must be given freely.
It’s easy to judge. It’s more difficult to understand. Understanding requires compassion, patience, and a willingness to believe that good hearts sometimes choose poor methods. Through judging, we separate. Through understanding, we grow.
It’s so easy to get caught up in the superficial beauty of our world. It’s incredible how you can meet someone so physically stunning and when you get to know them, they seem to lack basic kindness, communication skills & compassion for others. The moment someone isn’t kind to others, any physical beauty they might have had disappears. Real beauty comes from kindness, virtue, and compassion. Seeing that kind of beauty requires more than just a casual glance.
Take time to get to know people and then decide how beautiful they are; you will become more beautiful in the process.
Sometimes people are beautiful. Not in looks. Not in what they say. Just in what they are. -MARKUS ZUSAK.
(There are reasons i find my people beautiful beyond looks. If you are included in this “MY PEOPLE”, you are appreciated. And i owe you whole lotta love & respect for life.)
The fact that you’re struggling doesn’t make you a burden. It doesn’t make you unloveable or undesirable or undeserving of care. It doesn’t make you too much or too sensitive or too needy. It makes you human. Everyone struggles. Everyone has a difficult time coping, and at times, we all fall apart. During these times, we aren’t always easy to be around and that’s okay. No one is easy to be around one hundred percent of the time. Yes, you may sometimes be unpleasant or difficult. And yes, you may sometimes do or say things that make the people around you feel helpless or sad. But those things aren’t all of who you are and they certainly don’t discount your worth as a human being.
The truth is that you can be struggling and still be loved. You can be difficult and still be cared for. You can be less than perfect, and still be deserving of compassion and kindness. Be you. (Not my words.)
Find someone who loves you well. Someone who never belittles you even in the heat of an argument. Someone who is gentle with you, but does not treat you like you are fragile. Someone who knows what you are capable of, and celebrates those pieces of you. Not someone who is intimidated by your strength. Someone who doesn’t make you feel guilty for being flawed. It is not love’s job to punish you. And remember the person you love is just as broken as you are when they fall short. No one is perfect do not hold them to this standard.
Find someone who is patient, consistent, forgiving, and apologetic. Someone who practices forgiveness freely and often. Love someone who is humble, kind, and empathetic. Not only with you, but with a beggar on the street, or a stranger in the supermarket. Common courtesy is important. Compassion is important. Kindness is important.
Now that i mentioned something about relationships twice in a day, my university friends will again start questioning whether i am seeing someone! Let me answer even before that question pops up. Most of my posts are scheduled a month advance. Typing these two paragraphs today right before the post goes live.
I entertained something inconsistent for a while. Whatever happened, I am not strong enough to blame or hate anyone. Let’s say, that was my fault. I am in the process of becoming single. In Snapchat, if you see my hands resting on some girl’s fine 🍑, high chances it’s either my bestie DEMI or my neighbour girl. Yes, i have a ting towards athletic girls.♌ But I don’t have a TYPE whom i want to date. First i have to be ready, next the connection must vibe positivity & remain consistent, that’s all. The most beautiful part about a girl where my heart goes little weak; when i feel she is grabbing my arms little stronger looking into my eyes with a wide big bright smile, while crossing baby/kid’s clothing section in shopping malls. Everyone knows i adore kids, they are angelic to me. 2023 goal is to become the best A+ dad world has ever seen, and i will settle to be a good B+ boyfriend/husband i guess.😂