You need to learn how to select your thoughts just the same way you select your clothes every day. This is a power you can cultivate. If you want to control things in your life so bad, work on the mind. That’s the only thing you should be trying to control.
Three major lessons you must learn for an easy smooth sailing life;
1. Sometimes bad things happen to good people and sometimes you might think you know someone, you might think they’re on your side but deep down inside they’re not. Pay attention. Actions speak louder than words, inconsistent words mean nothing and such words are just another way to cover up the truth with lies.
2. Almost everything we go through we can’t control. That means, if it’s yours, then somewhere down the line it’ll return to you. And if it’s not, then you have to make peace with it and move on. It’s as simple as that.
3. Letting go is never an easy thing to do, no matter how many times you’ve rehearsed it, no matter how many times you’ve played it in your head, it never goes as planned and almost always does it sting a little harder than you thought. (Not my words.)
I think sometimes people believe that worrying has some kind of productive purpose. Worry sucks all of your energy and joy out of whatever it is you’re doing. It’s human nature to worry, but when we do it constantly, we run into more problems. It may give you something to do, but you don’t get anywhere.
The next time you are worrying about something, try to remember that you aren’t always in control. Instead, do practical things like make a budget or create a schedule. Be proactive and let go of the stress. After all, it won’t change a thing. Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength.
1. Stop complaining and appreciate how lucky you are every day. 2. Embrace loneliness and reinvent yourself in the process. 3. Say goodbye to the people that don’t bring consistent positive energy into your life. 4. Throw off the TV and set Internet controls. 5. Pick one skill you want to cultivate and put all your effort into developing it. 6. Commit to the goals you set and never look back. 7. Sweat every day to boost your mood. 8. Fail forward. Learn from every mistake you make.
Get up. Get a routine. Get outside when you can. Get moving. Get focused on the day in front of you. (Not the month or year.)
Don’t live inside hypothetical catastrophes. Focus on what you can control. (Even if it is your breathing.) Don’t beat yourself up for not baking banana bread. LIFE IS FUN, LET IT BE.
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Throughout the years I have learned three major things:
1. Sometimes bad things happen to good people and sometimes you might think you know someone, you might think they’re on your side but deep down inside they’re not. Pay attention. Inconsistent people use WORDS to cover up the truth with lies.
2. Almost everything we go through we can’t control. That means, if it’s yours, then somewhere down the line it’ll return to you and if it’s not, then you have to make peace with it and move on. It’s as simple as that.
3. Letting go is never an easy thing to do. No matter how many times you’ve rehearsed it. No matter how many times you’ve played it in your head. It never goes as planned and almost always does it sting a little harder than you thought. (Not my words.)
You resort to passive-aggressive tactics. For example, you notice some friends who are not with you.
• You are offended and invite another friend to go out with you. • You take a ton of pictures and post them on social media for all to see. • When you feel like you’re losing control of a situation, you create another one that you can control.
Consider picking up a new hobby. Accept that not everything other people do is related to you.
2. You’re kind of a know-it-all.
• You have the feeling that people should listen to you since you’re the one who knows the most. • People around you may feel as though they are suffocating due to your actions. • You may have a persistent desire to put yourself first, which may cause others to perceive you as selfish.
3. You pour attention on someone, then withdraw it if they do something wrong.
• You avoid people after an argument to prove a point. • The point is that you don’t need them, and if they want to make up, they should go to you first. • You feel the need to be in control. • It’s important to remember that no one is perfect, including you.
4. You are adamant about getting your way.
• You are being persuasive. • In some cases, you may have to go to great lengths to obtain your desired outcome. • Assume you want candy for everyone, but others wish to have chocolate. So, what do you do? You get rid of all the chocolate, so they don’t have a choice. • If you ever catch yourself doing these things, stop, take a deep breath, and take a step back.