Everyone wants to know how i tolerate my bestfriend DEMI since past 700 years of our friendship because her attitude is bit aggressive?
Let me answer & YES, it’s a long answer: We were attending Lory’s birthday party near Cardiff bay. Party was over & some Justin Bieber song started playing. DEMI walked towards me & said; “Rudey, my pussy is drying up because of this shit song. Let’s leave & let’s drive to Tenby. We will talk about everything after reaching the beach.”
We both laughed & i still remember those exact words. And Yes, DEMI still calls me RUDEY because of my rude/angry/grumpy face. We went through a bad fight before 5 months of that birthday party & i stopped talking to Demi. I decided i must allow her some time to think & respond logically instead of continuing that fight. Only few friends know Tenby is my favourite coastal town in Britain & i prefer afternoon swimming when i think about relaxing. DEMI made the right choice with place & timing. We went swimming & she broke the ice while chilling at beach. We had a long open vivid conversation about everything which went loose. We were able to come back stronger. Years gone & our equation keeps getting better with time. No matter how much i deny, she is the sassiest angel i ever came across. Bestfriends for some good reasons, and i can’t appreciate more.
27-Feb is the date we had a bad fight & we both stopped communication for 5 months. We both still talk about the stupid reason behind it & what we missed in those 5 months. We laugh at each other’s silent treatment. We tease each other about why that was just unnecessary.
We humans always take goodness for granted & our ego stops us from accepting our flaws. We miss opportunities. We disrespect good people. Sometimes we hurt others without even knowing. We make blunders easily.
But there are very few who accept & cross that path to acknowledge own mess. Who says it’s easy!! Very few are ready to talk about what’s wrong in them & why they are ready to change for better instead of farting from mouth “THAT’S HOW I AM”. I admire those who strive to be a better human. It’s easy to go vulnerable towards such people who come with clean intentions. Every equation can be easy, soothing, happening & loving. JUST CHOOSE THOSE WHO CHOOSE YOU.
In a generation of people who want to be heartless, and empty of feelings, then call it SAVAGE, it’ll be hard to be someone who is what a HUMAN should be. Do not become like the world.
Be loyal, be truthful, be consistent, be emotional, and be full of feelings. Be hungry for love, be thirsty for affection, and anything else human beings ought to desire. With time moving up, you will experience people who match your energy, enthusiasm & optimism.
Let others be foolish and cold. Don’t dim your light to become as dark as they are.
(This Instagram post got nothing to do with the post above. My love for G-Shock watches goes back to A-level/high school days. Not a secret i am a huge sneakerhead, but i love watches too. YES I have some 46 watches right now, 7 are Casio G-shock watches. And when my bestie DEMI sees this at evening, she can guess what to gift me during thanksgiving dinner.)😜
Get honest with people about who you are, what you want, and how you expect to be treated. Standards only scare off the people not meant for you.
Some people have a problem, they can’t digest respect & good vibes. Stay away from those, such people don’t deserve your LOVE or ATTENTION.
My bestfriend DEMI asked me yesterday “whether i will stop hanging out with her after i get a girlfriend/partner/wife or someone significant?”. I am answering this with few lines, so that she can bookmark & read it as many times she wants. I hide nothing from no one.
Here’s my answer: My blood’s origin goes back to an eastern state of India called ODISHA. Since childhood i was taught few things which are embedded in my mind now:
1. Study, learn, get qualified & make lots of money with that knowledge. Because society is either judgemental or materialistic which respects power of MONEY & KNOWLEDGE. 2. Live for love, respect, family, and LOVE+RESPECT towards family. That’s why we have huge families. 3. MONEY you made mustn’t be used to flex in front of others. Use it to keep your family happy. 4. Invest in gold & land, this is the big kicker. That’s the reason most Indian men crave to buy more than one property & Indian women are obsessed with 24 carat pure gold jewelleries.😂 That’s all.
So one day when i enter a stable relationship, the sole purpose is to start my own family someday soon or sooner. I know whom & what to prioritise. But remember one thing dumb bitch, i feel like i know you since my past life. You are not just my bestfriend, i consider you family. You will always have 24/7 access to my house, my lap, a piggyback ride to beach & access to me no matter it’s pouring/sunny/snowing. Don’t get emotional DEMI, we are not discussing anything about this post during facetime.
1- Do something you’ve been procrastinating on. What’s on your to-do list that’s been sitting there? Do it first thing in the morning, and get it out of the way. You’ll feel great about yourself.
2- Get active. Doing something is almost always better than not doing anything. Of course, doing something could lead to mistakes, but mistakes are a part of life. That’s how we learn. Without mistakes, we’d never get better. So don’t worry about those. Just do something. Get off your butt and get active physically, or active by taking steps to accomplish something.
3- Act positive. More than just thinking positive, you have to put it into action at right time. Action, actually is the key to developing self-confidence. It’s one thing to learn to think positive, but when you start acting on it, you change yourself, one action at a time. (Not my words)
There are tons of motivational videos which talk about taking risks & leave that 9 to 5 job to fetch your dreams. Most men see it, start something they wish getting their adrenaline pumped for exact 7 days & then give up whatever they started mourning/regretting what they lost after facing FAILURE. That’s how we lose some real people coming forward with genuine ideas/intrest/breakthrough towards solving problems. When you want something in life, first sit down & have a heart to heart conversation with yourself. Being real is way more important compared to being optimistic or persistent for that matter.
Let me tell you how I roll!! I am not a believer in this risk taking bullshit, bullshit because I have never done anything like this. I know myself & I take a long long time to trust someone/something. When my businesses & career are concerned, I only follow tried & tested methods. I must understand it fully before investing myself into it. That’s the reason I am aware I can/will do something better than others but I am never gonna do/invent something drastically new which isn’t present already. Does that make me an inferior person who isn’t interested to take risks!!? If NO, that’s good. If YES, even better because I have no time to give shit. I see myself growing as a person while feeding my bank account some good dose of benjamins everyday. Most important part is: I am HAPPY with what I do. Still suggestions & positive constructive inputs are welcome but accepting them will always remain my choice.
A bit about this boy/men adrenaline driven mindset I mentioned in first paragraph!! Challenge me to run 5km without stopping, bake a pizza in 20 minutes, design a stupid website like this https://demidum.best within 20 minutes to embarass my bestie bitch because of our previous day fight, do 100 push-ups or 50 pull-ups, skateboarding without wearing helmets or knee pads in southbank skateboard park, all these take bit of balls to pull off. Have I done it all?? My closest friends can answer this. You can challenge me to surf in rain or go deep inside sea till some shark bites my butt, all these adrenaline thumping moves portray a boy/men packs bit badassery because we have designed a society like this around us. Sometimes it’s totally OK to say “I CAN’T DO THIS” & save yourself from being stupid. (This shark biting butt & surfing under rain incidents already happened with me, that too for a challenge of 50 quids with a russie mofo. Ivan, fuck yourself).
We all must take self introspection bit seriously. That helps us in understanding limits of our strength & capabilities.
Anyone still asking “Why Tap & Demi aren’t dating?”.
Answer: Familiarity & Romantic equation both are two different things. In my eyes that LOVE takes effort in TRUTH, RESPECT, TRUST, COMMUNICATION, VULNERABILITY & DECISIVENESS. I can’t love someone without respect & I don’t give second chances. We are best friends, hopefully this will never change.