The real glow up isn’t proving the people from your past wrong. It is finally feeling so content and hopeful about your future that you stop thinking about them entirely. When you want to change your life in order for it to look different, and only that, you are still orbiting around the opinions of people who didn’t love you, and didn’t have any intention to.
A real glow up is authentic. It is lifting off all the cover-up bullshit and addressing the real problems. It is healing. It is changing, for good. It is, for the first time, prioritizing your heart over someone else’s eyes. The real glow up is realizing that you have nobody to prove wrong but yourself. (Not my words.)
Just always be the better person. And make your intentions pure. What and who you are is what you’ll attract, what you’ll maintain. Pain is inevitable and it will always exist, but if you focus on understanding what you are feeling and why you are feeling it, you will overcome it.
I have come to realize that making yourself happy is most important. Never be ashamed of what you feel because we all feel the same emotions at one point or another. Maybe we express them in different ways, but fundamentally it’s the same, which is why we can relate to each other. The main thing to remember is “never let anyone make you feel bad about how you’re feeling.”
If you’re having a bad day, don’t count on others to cheer you up. Find HAPPINESS within yourself. We can’t always rely on others to make us feel HAPPY. We must first find it in ourselves.
(This video got something to do with the post above. Watch this 7 minutes video for little bit understanding on personal wellbeing, purpose & happiness. Happiness is a topic worth exploring.)
You resort to passive-aggressive tactics. For example, you notice some friends who are not with you.
• You are offended and invite another friend to go out with you. • You take a ton of pictures and post them on social media for all to see. • When you feel like you’re losing control of a situation, you create another one that you can control.
Consider picking up a new hobby. Accept that not everything other people do is related to you.
2. You’re kind of a know-it-all.
• You have the feeling that people should listen to you since you’re the one who knows the most. • People around you may feel as though they are suffocating due to your actions. • You may have a persistent desire to put yourself first, which may cause others to perceive you as selfish.
3. You pour attention on someone, then withdraw it if they do something wrong.
• You avoid people after an argument to prove a point. • The point is that you don’t need them, and if they want to make up, they should go to you first. • You feel the need to be in control. • It’s important to remember that no one is perfect, including you.
4. You are adamant about getting your way.
• You are being persuasive. • In some cases, you may have to go to great lengths to obtain your desired outcome. • Assume you want candy for everyone, but others wish to have chocolate. So, what do you do? You get rid of all the chocolate, so they don’t have a choice. • If you ever catch yourself doing these things, stop, take a deep breath, and take a step back.
Growth won’t always look the way you envisioned it.
Sometimes we can romanticize growth as only being abundance or making space for more. But i also believe growth involves shedding, loss, and really tough shifts. Growth is saying how you really feel. Growth is sometimes disappointing others by choosing you. Growth is being willing to let go even though it’s hard. When we ask for growth, we may have to be willing to allow people, places, and opportunities to leave for our benefit. That’s growth too.
(Not my words.)
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You deserve to be in spaces and relationships that make you happy; that feed your soul and help you grow. You are worthy of connections that are loving, nourishing and genuine. Before you settle for anything less than, remind yourself that the places you visit and people you journey with through life should make you feel safe, loved and enough. -Alex elle.
If you’re feeling frightened about what comes next, don’t be. Embrace the uncertainty. Allow it to lead you places. Be brave as it challenges you to exercise both your heart and your mind as you create your own path toward happiness; don’t waste time with regret. Spin wildly into your next action. Enjoy the present, each moment, as it comes, because you’ll never get another one quite like it. And if you should ever look up and find yourself lost, simply take a breath and start over. Retrace your steps and go back to the purest place in your heart, where your hope lives. You’ll find your way again.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. Lee Evans never fails to crack you up. And this one on Cardiff, watch it coz it’s hilarious. Let’s say 2 minutes hilarious & 2 minutes unreal.)
Anger and resentment are two of the most toxic emotions we can feel. There are always times when people infuriate us or hurt our feelings but we don’t confront it. Instead we just let these negative feelings grow wild within us. Before we know it, they have taken over us like vines crawling over every cell and organ in our body. We should never let someone else’s problems bring us down in the first place.
(This video has something to do with the post. Amidst war, we are going through something bigger. Watch it with an open mind. Big fan of Trevor Noah & Sadhguru.)
When someone does something that upsets you, don’t hold a grudge; confront them and then do your best to put it behind you.
You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger. -BUDDHA.