Enthusiastic listeners. People who don’t make you guess if they’re mad. Direct communicators. The friend who helps you clean your room. Those who are kind to those who can do nothing for them. Messy folks who repeatedly get it wrong but never stop trying to get it right anyway. Kindred spirits. Loud laughers. Pals who make the grocery store fun. Loved ones who get as excited about your success as you do. The person you feel comfortable crying in front of. Sing-in-the-car friends. People who text you to look at the moon. People who text you just to say hi. The one you’ve known since childhood who you can go a long time without talking to but nothing changes. Those who understand the value of holding space. The mentor who pushes you to do better because they want better for you. Patient teachers. Healers. Scrappy souls. Hard workers. Friends you can joke about hypothetical situations with for hours on end.
The genuine ones. Anyone who leaves you feeling good afterward, not just when you’re with them. People who see your fault lines and say they have them too. Anyone who came to mind as you read this. Hold them close. Love them hard.
Hurting people back will not heal your pain. Learn to react to people constructively, even if that means being alone in silence, to study your emotions. In your response is your DESTINY. If you do not take conscious control of your reaction, you will give away your power.
Self-care isn’t just holidays and massages. It’s working on your habits, mindset and healing your past. It’s removing toxic thoughts, inconsistent people and places in your life. Self-care is living intentionally, purposefully and consciously.
Throw away the idea that you need to pause your life until you are fully healed, this is a different way of being attached to perfection. Real progress happens when you make better decisions in the midst of living. You can simultaneously heal your past while being open to the present.
The world is filled with people who, no matter what you do, will point blank not like you. But it is also filled with those who will love you fiercely. They are your people. You are not for everyone and that’s OK. Talk to the people who can hear you.
Don’t waste your precious time and gifts trying to convince them of your value, they won’t ever want what you’re selling. Don’t convince them to walk alongside you. You’ll be wasting both your time and theirs and will likely inflict unnecessary wounds, which will take precious time to heal. You are not for them and they are not for you; politely wave them on, and continue along your way. Sharing your path with someone is a sacred gift; don’t cheapen this gift by rolling yours in the wrong direction.
Keep facing your true north. YOU ARE NOT FOR EVERYONE.
Someone fell in love today. Someone was born today. Someone lived through something that could have killed them. Someone won back the love of their life. Someone made their parents proud. Someone survived. Someone healed. Someone let go.
Seven billion people, and some of us have just had the best day of their lives. Today may have been the very worst day of yours. But take solace and celebrate this simple fact. It wasn’t your best day today, but it is on it’s way, because we all get lucky in turn. (Not my words.)
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. I share what entices me, this National Geographic series on God & Mythology by Morgan Freeman is fascinating. It’s about the word APOCALYPSE. Watch it for fun & little bit knowledge.)
Throw away the idea that you need to pause your life until you are fully healed; this is a different way of being attached to perfection. Progress happens when you make better decisions in the midst of living. You can simultaneously heal your past while being open to the present.
There is so much power in our words, more than we realise. They can do so much good and so much damage. They can create peace or cause people to break out in violence. When we’re hurting the most it’s easy to lash out at other people, but then we become the source of the problem we are personally suffering from. Don’t take your pain out on others or you will just be perpetuating the cycle.
If you’re hurting, do your best to seek outlets that are healthy. Find a friend to talk to, express yourself artistically, write in your journal, or seek professional help.
Words have the power to both destroy and heal. When words are both true and kind, they can change our world. -BUDDHA.