When you learn how to communicate with others there’s no problem you can’t solve. It doesn’t mean you’ll always agree with other people and it certainly doesn’t mean that they will agree with you. But none of that matters if you possess the maturity and the patience to work through your differences. Think about how much more peace there would be on this planet if people would just talk through a problem instead of using violence & retaliation.
Do you have a friend or family member you have a really hard time getting through to? Maybe now is the time to try again. It never hurts to try.
You have to learn how to communicate if you want to get along in this world.
More than anything, the world needs you to show up, strong and courageous, to lead them into something new. They may not know it. They may not see it. They may not understand it. But, deep within you, you see it and you recognize it. You don’t just see this present moment. But you see what could be. And, that’s a gift.
You see the pain, but you also see the healing. You see the problem, but you also see the solution. You see the lack, but you also see the provision. You see the the gap, but you also see the bridge. You know there’s a better tomorrow. So, lean into that. TRUST YOURSELF.
Instead of saying “I’m lazy,” saying “I’ve made a habit of not doing work unless it’s absolutely necessary.” Instead of saying “I’m a bad friend,” saying “I haven’t communicated as much as I should with the people I care about.”
By being specific about your problems, and by framing it as an action that you are consciously either working on or ignoring rather than an unchangeable part of who you are, you allow yourself to accept your mistakes and work constructively on them instead of pretending they didn’t happen or wallowing in blaming yourself.
Honestly I think one of the most empowering things you can do for yourself is to separate your negative qualities from your identity. (Not my words.)
Let them judge you. Let them misunderstand you. Let them gossip about you. Their opinions aren’t your problems. You stay kind, committed to love, and free in your authenticity. No matter what they do or say, don’t you doubt your worth or the beauty of your truth. Remain CONSISTENT & just keep shining like you always do.
Anger and resentment are two of the most toxic emotions we can feel. There are always times when people infuriate us or hurt our feelings but we don’t confront it. Instead we just let these negative feelings grow wild within us. Before we know it, they have taken over us like vines crawling over every cell and organ in our body. We should never let someone else’s problems bring us down in the first place.
(This video has something to do with the post. Amidst war, we are going through something bigger. Watch it with an open mind. Big fan of Trevor Noah & Sadhguru.)
When someone does something that upsets you, don’t hold a grudge; confront them and then do your best to put it behind you.
You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger. -BUDDHA.
By OVERTHINKING we often create problems that aren’t even there. Maybe you should stop overthinking so much and trust the way life happens. Things change. Every year you grow into someone else. Every year you have the opportunity to start over again and begin, to rise and face the world the way that you want to. Take this with you, you beautiful human being.
Don’t be afraid to fail. Don’t be afraid to fall. Don’t be afraid to get your heart broken. Don’t be afraid at all. The fear is in your head. The doubt is in your heart. And regret survives in the memory. That is, if you feed it, if you give into it. So please, before you go, remember overthinking is a self-inflicting act. It is the suicide, the doubt of self, the tragedy no one understands. It is instant death without lifting a single sword. So don’t give in to it, you know you’re stronger than that and capable of so much more.
While you may not have control over everything that happens in life, you do have control over your mindset and perspective.
You can choose to think that you’re down on your luck, or you decide to see that you are being set-up for something extraordinary.
You can choose to focus on all the chaos happening around you, or you decide to look for the good that is emerging.
You can choose to live in a state of victimhood, or you can decide to live from the stance of a champion.
Make the decision that come what may come, this new year is going to be good and beautiful and something magical, not because the world’s problems finally faded away, but because you chose to start changing your perspective.
ONLY YOU CAN CONTROL YOUR PERSPECTIVE. (Not my words.)