I think the most important thing in life is self-love. Because if you don’t have self-love and respect for everything about your own body, your own soul, your own capsule, then how can you have an authentic relationship with anyone else?
It’s so attractive when someone just knows exactly who they are and doesn’t compromise it. When a man or a woman walks into a room and has confidence, everyone can feel it. The truth is that; looks fade, but inner beauty, poise, and self love last forever, only if you nurture them.
Find your confidence and let it radiate out. There’s nothing more beautiful and attractive than a person who knows who they are. OWN YOURSELF.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. I am a data analytics professional since a while. When i say “I LOVE MY JOB”, I fucking mean it. Now a days i work as an contractual employee because of my ongoing PhD research scholar status. My work is my identity & it’s a matter of respect to me. DON’T QUIT YOUR JOB JUST BECAUSE YOU OWN YOUR HOUSE OR YOUR YOUTUBE ADSENSE REVENUE CROSSED 10-12K THIS MONTH. 20 minutes research about your location & 2 blogs on finance or food, that much work can make easy 10K dollars a month. That’s easy & not permanent. Quitting job has become a stupid trend now a days. The 170K salary this guy is talking about could have reached millions in a while, because data analytics is the booming industry of this century. It’s somewhat true that MONEY is not enough for personal happiness. But once you have a family, there’s no bigger form of happiness compared to fulfilling demands of your family. And MONEY becomes the biggest support cycle at that phase of life. May it be your passion, hobby or job, the only criteria of growth is HOW MUCH MONEY IT YIELDS!!)
You might not love all aspects of yourself right now but you can learn to accept it. Accept your flaws. Accept the positives and negative aspects of your story. Accept the parts of you that are deemed unacceptable by society. Self acceptance is the starting point to attain self love.
A high school teacher once said; “Being close & open to your opposite sex is important, you become more transparent, there’s no insecurities which makes you more confident. Later that also helps you build better relationship/friendships”. I took those words bit too seriously i guess. Even though my name is bit spoiled with university girls, I haven’t dated many in my almost close to 30 life. Actually i never missed dating someone. Being an extrovert & a LEO, I always had/have options to choose with whom i want to hangout/party/travel/workout/get cozy/watch Netflix/movie night/go hiking or shopping.
Now back to the story/confession/realisation, here it goes: Way back when I was getting over a breakup, I used to spend most of my night filled with anger & a boyish temper. I didn’t realize it back then, I had so much to achieve in my life & such negative feelings weren’t helping. I wondered why she was able to get over faster than I was. Later I realised, it’s because I was spending so much time hating that situation rather than getting over it.
Anyone from my university friends scratching their head which breakup i am talking about; it’s my bestfriend DEMI. We are bestfriends since 7th century, but we have a mad crazy past. We dated for a very short period of time, I wasn’t ready for a COMMITMENT & i literally thought we were just fooling around. Fault was mine. I said YES to 4 girls for prom night & 2 out of those 4 were our seniors. I was expecting DEMI will be cool with it. To fight back & make me jealous, DEMI went on a date with one of my friends named Ivan. Being a loyal bro, Ivan asked my permission whether he is allowed to take DEMI out for a full monty brunch. DEMI didn’t like her date. She wanted to patch what fell apart in between us, but i was more focused with my studies & part-time job. I didn’t care much because i am the kinda guy who’s happy when my bank account grows, my life is more about my growth rather than allowing someone to mess with my piece of peace. Let’s say, I am a happy man because i am married to my bank account.
It became a runner/chaser situation for a week. Sad to say, i was the runner. One saturday evening it was snowing really bad. It was a lightbulb moment for me, I invited DEMI to try my homemade sourdough pizza. It wasn’t tasty like store-bought pizza, but we both ate it with pin drop silence. That was my first try with sourdough fermentation. Next day DEMI came to my apartment early morning, we followed another recipe from some website & we baked that pizza perfectly. We both were upset about each other’s behaviour. An amazing conversation after a good pizza helped us heal. We both got the closure & clarity we needed.
Coming back to this current day called TODAY, the only person who still sits on my lap is DEMI. I can ask her for a head & back massage anytime i want. We go on long drives. It’s a weddings/royal dinner invitations/travelling to some islands during weekends, we are each other’s +1 partner. If weather is not ok, we make it better by cuddling/spooning each other. 3-4 times she suggested whether we can date again! And as usual, I am not ready for dating experiments. But we already have an amazing equation, i don’t want to destroy that by allowing some romantic melodrama. We have a verbal agreement, there’s a sweet punishment if we miss each other’s phonecall or facetime. Last time i missed DEMI’s call when i was attending a university seminar, i had to send a butt naked snapchat streak to all my 186 friends as punishment. Our communication is flawless. The truth is, it took us a long time to build the amazing equation we share & i am not strong enough to hurt her. If i know someone who is TRUTHFUL & CONSISTENT so far in my life, it’s DEMI. Now there’s nothing except RESPECT & ADMIRATION towards each other.
Takeaway: Whatever struggle you are facing in your life, make sure you are not poisoning yourself with anger when you could be giving yourself love. When you are filled with anger or hate, the only person that suffers is you because most of the people you hate don’t know it and the rest don’t care. Fill yourself with SELF-LOVE & SUCCESS before you are in search of LOVE.