The ATTITUDE of “that’s just how I am, take it or leave it” is still a sign of immaturity. As an adult, it’s your responsibility to figure out which of your traits are toxic and are negatively impactful towards other people and the ones you love, and to eventually learn how to fix them. At some point, we all gotta start making ourselves better individuals.
If you truly believe you don’t have to change anything about yourself, even at the very least the worst in you, and that people will just have to deal with it, then sorry, you’re still a child & your attitude is a childish nonsense.
I continually strive to be better by evaluating my daily actions, reactions, responses & behaviour. And i measure how they affect other people. When I realize that my actions may have hurt someone, I make a point to go to them and apologize in a meaningful way. It feels good when I make a conscious effort to recognize my faults and then do everything I can to make them right and demonstrate my love & care. These actions are so much more impactful than words.
Think about someone you should reach out to, whether it is to apologize or reconnect, tell them that you love them or that you are sorry. When your intentions are right, your actions will make sense to anyone you connect/reconnect. Always remember; actions speak louder than words, only when your intentions are clear.
Everyone of us has done something wrong in life. We have hurted people. We all regret our wrongdoings.
But, very few of us are BRAVE enough to say SORRY in a meaningful way & ask forgiveness. My respect for such people never falls short, because regret makes no difference if you can’t change your approach for the better.
To choose forgiveness requires that we fight back our human desire for revenge. – Dr. John Perkins.
(Luca my brother, I never hated you & i am not strong enough to hate anyone. This date 21-12-21 & this tiny post is dedicated to you.)
Strength is forgiving people that don’t even feel sorry for their action. Strength is putting a smile on your face when you want to cry a river. Strength is not hurting those who hurt you. Strength is forgiving others.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. Watch it for fun, one of my favourites from superwog.)
There is a reason why i hate this word “SORRY” and there is also a reason i appreciate those who disagree with me sensibly over serious matters. Let me answer why!!
First, stop apologizing for no reason. Saying sorry constantly without giving it a second thought doesn’t earn much respect & it doesn’t make any sense as well. There is a time and a place for apologies. Sometimes you make mistakes that affect others, you must apologize there. But stop tossing around that word everywhere for nothing. Next, stand up for what you believe. Have you ever come across someone who simply nods their head repeatedly!?! It just seems to agree with everything you say. You can tell that they’re not giving much thought to what you’re saying. It gets meaningless after a while as they just say yes to everything. Those who politely disagree and stand up for themselves get greater respect. It’s important to have a mind of your own.
Don’t be afraid to stand up for what you believe and at the same time make sure you do it in a sensible respectful manner without being SORRY for your words.
I have a secret diary in this app called “ColorNote”. In case I fuck up something or someone abuses my way of life, I write it down. On this date something was definitely making me restless, I think I hurt someone & that person didn’t accept my SORRY.
I usually talk to whoever listening about my days before hitting the bed for 2 minutes, most of the times it’s talking to myself. I never get a peaceful sleep at night if someone is hurt because of me.
Fuck you if you have the audacity to judge me behind my back. I may have 100, I reveal 10. Because it’s my call what to show. If you have dealt with me during my high school/engineering/university days, please don’t hate me for my past behaviour. You know what I was going through.
I never have/had a backup plan in my life. Never took impulsive decisions. Still I am asking for a FORGIVENESS for my part of mess & a tiny invitation for a coffee with full monty, let’s mend the shits went wrong. I think twice before my actions, that’s why I have no reasons to rethink after my actions. Doesn’t matter you treated me good or bad, I am welcoming you open arms with an offer of friendship. We can’t change the past. Why don’t you ring my number instead of calling everyone & saying you are SORRY for what you did with me! I am still using the same number since 2009. My phone will be general after 5pm weekdays. Don’t be afraid. Let’s catch up.
(Targeted towards my mate C*****. Stop stalking & start talking please.)