There are people who notice you only when you shine, or when you fall into the darkness. Not the average you. Not the mediocre you. But the great you, or the not-so-great you. The people who are worthiest of your care are not those who only notice you at your best and worst but those who are with you at all times. They don’t need an excuse to love you. They don’t need an excuse to talk to you, or to ask you how you’re doing!! They don’t need an excuse to share their happiness with you. They don’t need an explanation. They give you one without you asking for it. They assume the good in you before the bad.
So keep eyes open just so you don’t miss those people. Such equations take long long time & trust to develop. Once you find them, never let them go because those are not just friends but family members. They’re life companions. They are the people who will tell you when you are wrong simply because they’ve allowed themselves to tie their well-being to yours. (Not my words). Vibe with people who are good for you.
How many of you struggle to say NO? If you’re one like that, you probably have the tendency to want to make other people happy even at your own expense. For most of us, saying NO is a real challenge. We humans are naturally caring. Our personality often makes us feel like it’s our job to take care of other people’s needs and saying NO can feel like a personal failure. In such moment, we are more than happy to make sacrifices for others. However once our energy drains with a sense of overwhelm, they lead us to regret.
First prioritize self care before thinking about other person’s wellbeing or pain. Keep things simple & real. Life is fun, let it be.
Society loves to ingrain this idea in our heads from parents to professional figures to religious leaders to government officials that “You have to trust and obey all authority”. You clearly don’t have to follow this. We are led to believe that we must obey authority. As soon as you begin to question this belief with critical thinking, you’ll see how unjust an irrational authority can be. Although this isn’t always the case, you should never blindly follow or trust authority simply because they have power. If everyone followed orders because rules are rules society would never seek progress.
Think about the greatest historical movements would never have been possible without the people who rebelled against authority. Humans are profoundly social beings. We have an inherent need for connection, acceptance and love. And some people will do whatever it takes to gain social approval, the fear of being left out abandoned or lonely often pushes people to suppress their authentic desires. You probably know that forcing yourself to do something just because someone told you to it’s not a good decision. But it’s harder to be mindful when society tells you to do or believe certain things that go against your true intentions. We must question the beliefs and social norms that we inherited to be able to start on the path of independent thinking. Then we can live as our most authentic selves and make decisions that support our well-being.
Every single time there is some negative bullshit or conspiracy theory, it always goes back towards one group of people. Anti-vaxxer, anti-mask, global warming denial, flat-earth & it’s followed by some hundred others. It’s effecting the whole world because the news media is majorly controlled by west. Right now is the right time to show an amazing middle finger to the ones who were screaming “Kill Bill gates or Fire Dr.Fauchi”. Actually it’s not just the problem of USA. I was gobsmacked while returning from airport in my Uber when i saw people burning 4G towers with the belief in hoax theory of 5G waves causing COVID, you can’t even laugh to that level of nonsense/illiteracy. In such moments we need right people to show the light, every little effort counts no matter from where you are reading this.